How Surrendering Control Becomes the First Step Toward Healing

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What’s the one thing that separates sober people from addicts who can’t quit?
It’s not willpower. It’s not money. And it’s definitely not even the best treatment center.
Can you guess?
Yep⌠Surrender.
Letting go of control is something that no addict wants to do. ButâŚthe hard reality is that it’s also the most important thing they’ll ever do for themselves. Faith and sobriety have a special connection that you’ll see explained below.
The struggle is real:
Trying to beat addiction alone is a fool’s errand. Most addicts white knuckle their way through recovery only to wonder why they keep relapsing. But what if real recovery starts the moment you stop white knuckling it and lean on something bigger than yourself?
Here’s what you’ll discover:
- Why surrendering control is the foundation of recovery
- Why spirituality and sobriety go hand-in-hand
- How spiritual practices can be implemented into daily recovery
- How to start building faith into your recovery today
Why Surrendering Control Is The Foundation of Recovery
Here’s the problem with addiction:
It lies to you about control.
Every addict thinks they have it under control. They always promise they’ll stop tomorrow. Addicts trick themselves into thinking they have it handled. Until they relapse⌠and do it all over again.
But what if you stopped trying to handle it yourself?
That’s where faith in recovery becomes the turning point. When addicts realize they can’t do this recovery thing by themselves. And choose to lean on something greater than themselves. Recovery changes.
The NIH even published an article that showed 73% of addiction treatment programs in the United States had a spirituality-based component to their program. Recovery really does start from within but each of these programs understands that healing the body and mind won’t work if the spirit is neglected.
Think about that for a second:
If 3 out of 4 addiction treatment programs focus on faith as part of their recovery… There has to be something to it.
Why Spirituality and Sobriety Go Hand-in-Hand
Alright, so now you’re probably wondering:
How does spirituality actually help with recovery?
There are three simple words: Purpose, community, and hope.
Addiction robs people of all three of these things. Spirituality gives it back to them.
Purpose. Addiction makes people feel worthless about themselves. Spirituality gives them a reason to better themselves. To live for something more.
Community. Going to recovery alone is tough. Not only do spirituality-focused programs like 12-step groups and church give you a routine to lean on… They provide you with a community of people that actually care about your recovery.
Hope. This one might be the most important. Addiction tells you that you’re too far gone. That you’ll never be good enough. But your spirit tells you the complete opposite. It reminds you that no matter how far you’ve fallen, you can always get better.
Look at how many people are impacted by addiction:
The SAMHSA 2024 national survey found that over 48.4 million Americans over the age of 12 suffered from a substance abuse disorder. That’s nearly 1 in every 5 Americans. Recovery programs that implement spiritual aspects have patients walking through the door every day ready to take back control of their life through faith.
How Spiritual Practices Can Be Implemented Into Your Daily Recovery
Here’s the thing most people don’t tell you about surrendering control:
It’s a daily decision.
You have to choose to let go every single day. And that’s where spirituality comes into play.
Prayer and meditation. Let’s kick things off with something you should be doing daily: Prayer and or meditation. Not only does it help clear your mind, it actually reduces cravings. A lot of times anxiety, guilt, and restlessness trigger cravings. Taking quiet time to sit with yourself helps.
12-step groups. Whether it’s Alcoholics Anonymous or Celebrate Recovery. 12-step groups can provide you with the structure and community you need to stay sober. Nobody has to do this alone.
Daily Faith Audit. Just like you take care of your body by eating healthy and working out… You have to take care of your spirit. By filling your mind with positive, faith-based thoughts, you strengthen your ability to stay sober.
You have to truly want recovery if you’re going to get it.
That means taking actions that better your body, mind, and spirit.
How To Start Building Faith Into Your Recovery Today
Building a spiritual relationship doesn’t happen overnight.
It’s a process and there is no rush. Here are some ideas to get you started:
- Attend a meeting. You don’t have to talk. Just show up to a meeting and listen. Faith starts with action, and by showing up to a meeting you are one step closer to your recovery.
- Seek out like-minded friends. Find a local church or faith-based community group. Being around like-minded people will force you to think about things differently.
- Try prayer or meditation for 5 minutes a day. If you’re not comfortable with praying. Meditation is another great way to clear your mind and learn how to control your thoughts.
- Find a sponsor or mentor. Do you know anyone who has been sober for a long period of time? Seriously though⌠ask them if they would mentor you on your journey. They’ve been where you are and can provide you with the accountability you need to stay focused.
- Be patient with yourself. Faith takes time. You’re not going to wake up Monday and suddenly believe in God. But what you can do is open your mind and be willing to take small actions that create bigger results.
Your recovery starts with you deciding that enough is enough. Once you decide that you’re ready to rebuild your life and put the pieces back together… Faith will find you.
Wrapping Things Up: Letting Go of Control
Addiction is hard.
There’s no two ways about it. But you aren’t alone in this fight. Faith and sobriety balance each other out.
Remember that 73% of treatment programs had a spirituality based component? That’s because it works. Addiction takes away your purpose, community, and hope… and spirituality places those things right back into your life.
If you’re struggling with addiction today:
- Stop beating yourself up and trying to do this alone.
- Open yourself up to spiritual help.
- Build a daily routine that allows you to grow your faith.
- Find other people fighting the same battle.
True recovery starts when you realize you can’t do it on your own. Let go of control and allow faith to guide you toward a better tomorrow.
